How to Voice our needs and Ask for Support

How to Voice our needs and Ask for Support

As you are changing and upleveling your habits, it’s a good idea to inform others. Not only does this help you stay accountable to yourself by letting others know, but it also gives your people a heads-up. On today’s show Alexandra Epple and I talk about how you can feel best supported as the person you want to be, how to voice your needs, and how to ask for support from the people in your life that are closest to you.

We all need guidance, space, and time in order to change and become the next level of ourselves. In asking for help, we are humbled. We admit that we are interdependent, not isolated, and that we affect each other. In this episode we show you the simplest, most effective ways to mobilize support in order to help yourself and others along your growth paths, how to accept support, and how to relax and expand into feeling of being supported.

I rap with Alexandra Epple about voicing our needs, as women:

  • How to ask for support and how to voice our needs in a society where we aren’t accustomed to ask for help
  • How do you want support? Do you feel supported in being the person you want to be?
  • Who in your life can support you in the different areas of your life? Who can you talk to about your business, about your family, about problem solving, or about having fun?
  • What do you do when those people say they cannot support you?

What you’ll get out of tuning in:

  • How to have a 5 minute conversation with the people in your life about changing your habits and feeling supported
  • How to communicate what you need clearly
  • If you feel unsupported, how do you realize that you feel that way, and what is the need behind the feeling that is not being fulfilled?
  • How to build a new habit loop – determining the habit you want and asking for support


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Show Highlights:

2:00- Alexandra and I discuss questions that continually come up in conversation- How to we voice our needs as women, how do we notice that we have unfilled needs and what do we do when we don’t get the support we need?

5:45- Certain people in our lives give us support us in certain ways and we can request support in those specific areas from those people. Not all of the people in our lives are meant to support us in every area of our lives.

9:50- How much do you in invest and where are you investing in support?

12:50- When we are wanting to change something, there is a way of breaking that down into habits and breaking that down into triggers. We can then discover the needs that are not being fulfilled behind our strong emotions.

17:00- How to ask those around you if they are willing to support you in becoming the next level of you.

Favorite Quotes

  • “What would it feel like for you to have more support than you can dream of?” -Cate Stillman
  • “Support is all out there, but am I actually tuning into the right frequency where that need can be met?”  -Cate Stillman
  • “You are actually more supported than any human in the history of the world.” -Cate Stillman
  • “Strong emotion = need not being fulfilled.” -Alexandra Epple


Alexandra Epple is a community health educator, health coach, an Ayurvedic Practitioner and Thai bodyworker. She supports and empowers women to transition through menopause and midlife with ease and grace. She is trained in yoga, Ayurveda, and other Eastern medical traditions and teaches people how to dive deep into their body’s wisdom in order to feel as good in the second half of your life, as they did in the first. She has completed Yoga Health Coaching with Cate Stillman and is currently a Yoga Health Coach and a mentor in Cate’s Living Ayurveda course.

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