Cheaters, Rebels & Goodie Two Shoes

Cheaters, Rebels & Goodie Two Shoes

The Yogidetox is moving into full swing. I've belted between 20-25th seasonal detoxes. My body and mind are very accustomed to this process. If I were to to skip my seasonal inner refinement expedition, I'd have a cellular insurrection on my hands.


While I'm obviously a seasoned seasonal yogidetoxer there is something you should know:

I'm also a rebel.  Rebels are Cheaters during a detox. I've resisted authority since I can remember. Naturally, my mom was the first victim of my rebellious behavior. I was a stubborn kid with a know-it-all attitude.. and a sharp whippersnapper at that. I didn't have a complacent bone in my body.

What does this have to do with detox?

When I decide to just juice for a week or two,or drink spicy lemonade exclusively for a week or two, or just eat fruit and vegetables for a month, or whatever detox I want to experiment with …. my rebel shows up in full swing…. and I cheat.

Meet my Inner Rebel

With EVERY detox, I'm sure to quickly encounter my inner rebel. My rebel is totally fine with the detox overall. But… she is totally not fine with the rules. She HAS to break the rules. And if she doesn't… there will be an amazing backlash as she leashes war post-detox on the Inner Goodie Two-Shoes. There will be  hell to pay after the detox has ended and re-emergence begins. The Inner Goodie Two-Shoes will be laid to R.I.P. It's really inefficient.

My experience with detoxing has led me away from rules and “right ways” of doing detox.  I've settled into the camp of guided inner exploration. Design your own. Figure it out as you go along.

How I deal with my Detox Rebel

After biannual wars I've made some peace with my inner rebel. Basically, I give into her. I had a major cognitive breakthrough on this front after hearing a talk this summer with Gretchen Rubin of the Happiness Project. She spoke at the World Domination Summit last July about her classification system of the 4 Types of People:

  • Ferment Your Veggies!The Upholder
  • The Questioner
  • The Rebel
  • The Obliger

Me and my husband landed squarely in the Rebel category. That probably explains why my “Ayurvedic Yogidetoxes” made room for many other types of detoxing early on. He hated Ayurvedic kitchari detoxing…and would rebel by not eating. For days. It wasn't fun. So I started having him juice i

nstead. One detox he did the Edgar Cayce Apple + Black coffee detox. He loved it… detoxing with Black Coffee. Typical Rebel.

Back to Gretchin's system, I see a Questioner as a Rebel – and obviously not a rule-follower.  I associate the Upholder and the Obliger with Goodies Two-Shoes.  I  break the system into two camps: Rebels and Goodie Two Shoes. Duality is just easier in this case.

Are you a Rebel or a Goodie Two Shoes?

Goodie Two-Shoes love the structure of a detox. They want a menu schedule and a grocery list. They like checking off boxes and following the rules. They are going to do this detox right b

y hell or high water. These people can have a hard time settling into the Yogidetox with all of it's deep instruction into your inner teacher and intuitive mind-body healing.

Rebels may be fine with the intuitive mind-body healing… but they'll still find a way to lie, cheat or steal in the process. They'll make rules just to break them. If they don't break the rules… the repression will cause more damage down the line. Rudimentary… but true enough.

Why I let my Rebel cheat

I've found if I let me Rebel cheat a bit – especially at the beginning of a detox, a certain peace is made. I don't suffer the war between the two during re-emergence. I'll have a square or two of dark chocolate. I'll have a handful of raisins. I'll take a spoonful of raw honey. I'll eat some of the beets in my veggie broth during a light liquids fast of juice and broth.. or have a bowl of miso soup during a Master Cleanse. How rebellious… I know.

These concessions will sound ridiculous to people who don't detox and wh


o eat a Standard American Diet. But to a Master Cleanser or  a Juice Feaster-Faster who fall in the Goodie Two-Shoes category of duality personality typing… these concessions sound equally ridiculous for opposite reasons. Who does she think she is leading planet-wide yogidetoxes –  she can't even follow the rules.

When a Goodie Two-Shoes Cheats

Gretchen Rubin's theory is that when an Upholder (what I'm unfairly calling Goodie Two-Shoes) cheats… she goes hog wild. She won't have a few squares of dark chocolate… the entire bar will disappear. Where the rebel just needs to break the rules… the Goodie Two-Shoes won't stop there, but will go hog wild.

As rebellious as I've been, I've never eaten a whole chocolate bar (or whatever) while cleansing. Without fail, every yogidetox cycle brings a Goodie Two-Shoes out of the closet. The last one told me on Day 4 of the Master Cleanse she slunk off to the bar for a burger and a beer. Most rebels won't go that far.

I find this hilarious. The Rebels are actually less rebellious that the Goodie Two-Shoes. Two-Shoes keeps herself on a short lease… because it works for her.

Know Thyself


The basic teaching of detoxing is to figure yourself out. You've got to have some rules that get you to make ashift. You need to sit your butt on the cushion. You need to limit caloric intake. You need to cut off from mindless media and the overwhelm of distraction.

And you've got to strip enough stuff away to stimulate your natural evolution. When you do this, inner universes are revealed. It's freaking amazing. That's why I do it seasonally. And in the process, we get to become besties with our subconscious tendencies. When that happens, we and the world are better off for it.


Yes, you can still join us in the October Yogidetox. You get a 3 month Access Pass. Many won't start their detox until November.

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  • Layla Cullen
    Posted at 14:42h, 15 October

    Holy Moly! I am Goodie Two Shoes to the max! With everything! A week of solid morning asana followed by a week of indulgent netflixing! I think that’s why I was initially scared with this detox. It was very ‘choose your own adventure,’ and I’m a rule-follower! To the max!! And, like was so well-stated, end up sabotaging with all manner of food I don’t normally eat. Thank you for this–I like the flexibility of this cleanse and the option to eat a SQUARE of dark chocolate.

    Also, one of your talks, not sure which one, talked about satisfying our cravings with opposite flavors. So, now, when I’m craving coffee, I have a taste of honey. When I’m craving sweet, I have something spicy. I’m noticing this is really helpful!!

    So thrilled with where this journey is taking me!
    Here’s to day four!!

    ++raises mug of hot piping lemon water++

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 15:12h, 15 October

    I’m glad this post spoke to you.

    It’s definitely choose-your-own-adventure in here. Design your own body – your own experience.

    Enjoy that 1 square 🙂

  • Pauline Elliott
    Posted at 00:43h, 16 October

    I think I’m a mixture of Rebel & Goodie Two Shoes!! I definitely have always rebelled against authority (& hate it with a vengence), but once I put my mind to the cleanse, I stick to it!! Although, I’ve decided never to starve myself so I juice & eat all the recipes too!! It’s the wine & beer that’s hard for me (hey, I’m an Aussie) but I don’t cheat as that would REALLY defeat my purpose for doing this in the first place!! I loved the article!! Love your sense of humour!!

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 00:57h, 16 October

    Thanks, Pauline!
    I can totally see you’re a mix.
    Somehow I’ve detoxed the desire for alcohol and other mind-altering substances out of my cells. Which is a minor miracle given my family of origin! Cheers to the natural high.

  • Teton Family Magazine
    Posted at 18:57h, 16 October

    HA! Awesome post, Cate, and BRILLIANT classifications! So, tell me this…if I put avocado on my kitchari and eat a few date rolls (ingredients: dates & coconut only) during my cleanse, am I a cheater? Done & done…my REBEL likes that 😉

  • Christina Shepherd McGuire
    Posted at 19:00h, 16 October

    HA! Awesome post, Cate, and BRILLIANT classifications! So, tell me this…if I put avocado on my kitchari and eat a few date rolls (ingredients: dates & coconut only) during my cleanse, am I a cheater? Done & done…my REBEL likes that 😉

  • Shannon Walton
    Posted at 19:04h, 16 October

    I love avo on my kitchari 🙂

  • Nadya
    Posted at 19:46h, 16 October

    Cate, you nailed it with this post! I see so much of a rebel in myself, too. I stopped fighting it and feel that permission always works best. As long as I know that nothing is off-limits and I can have anything anytime I want, I don’t want anything bad:) as soon as someone sets rules for me, I resist! For my panchakarma I brought apples for my rebel to know that she can have it if she wants and so far she doesn’t:)
    Best of luck on you detox and thank you for sharing your story with so much authenticity! You rock, lady!

  • Kate Strathmann
    Posted at 20:16h, 16 October

    Love this!
    I think the last time I did the yogidetox I wrote a post about my experience of the rebellion thing on the forum…and after doing cleanses once or twice a year for the last few years, I concur — I’m way happier and more successful if I let myself off the rule hook from the beginning; otherwise I get completely oppositional defiant with myself and get grouchy and hate it. I haven’t found that my cleanses are any less effective for cheating here and there. I actually feel better overall, since I’m not fighting myself.

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 21:32h, 16 October

    Good to hear from you.
    Yes – there is that fine line between the benefit of being strict and the energy inefficiency of the inner war to get there. This looking into the shadows that arise with humility and acceptance seems more sane. And definitely less backlash.

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 21:33h, 16 October

    thanks for stopping by. Really? You’re a rebel? I would have pegged you for a “goodie 2-shoes”, and i mean that with deep respect!
    I love that – the apple-available rebel.

    Have a great detox.

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 21:34h, 16 October

    hilarious. yes- sounds vata-pacifying to me. Good for you with this 15′ mornings in the Tetons!

  • Donna Dukes
    Posted at 14:50h, 18 October

    Definitely a rebel… Find myself taking 2steps forward and one step back. But enjoying the journey thus far and the insight to my inner self.

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