Resolve to be Useful

Resolve to be Useful

I've been noticing the conversation “out there” about resolutions. The tide seems to be shifted away from resolutions (argument: they don't work) and towards something else. The something else isn't well articulated. Here is my two cents:

Humans are part of a cyclical planet. Cycles have pulsation. Resolve is part of the pulsation. If we don't take time out to reflect on what is working… what isn't working… what needs reformation… what is worthy of celebration… then we are missing out on being fully human.

  • Resolve to become even more useful.
  • Resolve to be seated in a cosmo-centric perspective… and get out of day-to-day “I-me-my” as John Lennon so aptly expressed.
  • Resolve to live outside the box if the box isn't working for you.
  • Resolve to eat the food that makes you feel good.
  • Resolve to listen before speaking.
  • Resolve to sit, reflect, journal on what is worthy of your resolve in the coming year.

Resolutions aren't going anywhere. Resolutions are useful. Resolutions are our resolve. What do you resolve to become.

Take time to resolve.

And if your resolve involves evolving your habits… read on:

Evolving Your Identity

A few years into my career as an Ayurvedic Practitioner I awakened to the reality that my job was much less about giving people really useful information to help them feel better. I awakened to the reality that my job was to help people change their habits.
Fast forward a few more years, and I've created the Yoga Health Coaching Certification program. The program is entirely based on helping people who LOVE yoga to evolve their habits in line with their wellness goals…. and open them to the possibility of aging gracefully and not suffering the diseases of modern culture or the diseases of their ancestors.
In my exploration around habit evolution I came across a few cutting-edge thinkers who are well ahead of the curve on how we change our habits. James Clear has put his time in and his noggin to work on figuring out how to help people create better habits. I invited the Yoga Health Coaches into an interview with James. We all decided you should hear it too.
James ( is a habit-evolving genius who enlightened us for a solid hour on how to cultivate better habits. Listen to this podcast: Click here. 
  • Why you need to start with your Identity
  • How to change a habit
  • How to discover why you repeat an outdated habit
  • Why repetition beats performance every time
  • How to schedule your way to being superhuman

One of the big breakthroughs James points out is that to change your habits you have to decide and commit to the kind of person you want to become.

Evolve your Habits by consciously choosing your identity.

This needs to be crystal clear in your mind's eye. If you're a smoker and you see yourself as a smoker and you like being a smoker… it's going to be impossible to quite smoking. Much more so than the difficulty of plowing through the physical addiction, which James points out only lasts a few days, biochemically speaking. More on identity evolution for habit changing:

“Your current behaviors are simply a reflection of your current identity. What you do now is a reflection of the type of person that you believe that you are (either consciously or subconsciously). To change your behavior for good, you  need to start believing new things about yourself.”

  Foundations of Strength by James Clear

Decide the Kind of Person who Want to Become

Most of us haven't been indoctrinated into habit change with this crucial step. To get it, answer this question:  I want to the kind of person who ______________.
Here … do it as an exercise. I want to the kind of person who _____________________________.
I want to the kind of person who also _____________________________.
And, I want to the kind of person who  _____________________________.

You need to decide what kind of person you want to be… and then you get to implement the kind of habits that a person like that has. Those habits are the 2nd order stuff: the strategy. But if you skip the identity… good luck with the strategy. It's a cart before the horse thing, and when things are out of sequence… they don't work so good.

In Yoga and Ayurveda, the concept is Ahamhara – or the separate self sense. Buddhi or our cosmic intelligence and Ahamhara – our limited self-sense are two entirely different entities or aspects of being human. Ahamhara is usually sourced from the past – your past behavior, your past habits… the momentum of your past imprinting your future.

When you tap into Buddhi you have an infinite field of possibility to choose who you are to become. You set aside your past identity. You choose from your informed resolve. Who are you going to be now? It's reinvention of your identity at it's best. Then, you need to bite the bullet of scheduling your resolve.

Goals vs. Scheduled Practice

“The schedule is your friend.” James Clear Performance and appearance goals are great, but they aren't the same as habits. If you're already doing a behavior, then these types of goals can help drive you to the next level. But for most of us, they aren't grounded in a scheduled reality. Scheduling in the behavior (the habit) that if done repetitively will guarantee the goal… now you have a plan. The general rule of thumb in this arena is to focus on scheduled repetition. Make your scheduled habits do-able…. so easy you can't blow it off. In Yoga Health Coaching this is the four legs to the chair, so to speak. If you want to lose 20 lbs. for example… but you don't schedule an early dinner for yourself repetitively, or most of the time, well good luck with the 20 lbs. Cutting out gluten or meat or whatever you decide to cut out this time won't work if you continue to have the majority of calories at the end of your day.

 Listen to the Habit Evolution Podcast

Enough said. Get it from the horses mouth and listen to James.
And let me know below:
I want to the kind of person who _____________________________.

Then, schedule your resolve.

Cate Stillman
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  • Meg Sylvia
    Posted at 17:16h, 04 January

    Love it!! Have been following James for some time, so I really loved listening to your interview with him and hearing him explain these ideas over podcast. I also like how you mention that resolutions aren’t going anywhere. I do believe that a lot of us set resolutions without attempting to evolve their identity, which seems to be while most resolutions don’t last.
    Thanks, Cate!

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 18:47h, 04 January

    Super, Meg. Thanks for commenting.

    James rocks. He’s got that great masculine, systematic, linear approach – and then he blows it out of the water with the super cool Identity changing image. Love that guy.

    Keep in touch,

  • Niki Widmayer
    Posted at 17:57h, 31 January

    I went to a yoga Nidra session on January 2nd this year where the yoga teacher talked about the same thing: how hard it is to keep “Resolutions”. She suggested something a little gentler like developing an intention. If you want to lose weight this year, develop the intention of honoring your body. I have been amazed at how often this idea creeps into my day and keeps me motivated to do little things that I know will make a difference.

  • Cate Stillman
    Posted at 19:25h, 31 January

    Excellent. It sets up a more cooperative relationship instead of dualistic.

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